I was listening to a podcast about how we think that once we achieve something, we will be free of all problems and exonerated. For example once we gain that new job, meet the perfect partner, move house, get a flat stomach, listen to that perfect self-help tape, we will be free and will never have to worry about anything again.
Have you ever felt like that?
But try this, imagine accepting that you will always have problems (challenges) in life no matter what. Although that sounds depressing at first, think about how freeing that actually is. Once you accept it, you won’t feel overwhelmed when something goes wrong, or upset that you haven’t reached a state of meditative bliss where nothing can affect you. Because that isn’t possible if you are human.
They did studies with patients who I think were suffering from depression, and found that once these patients accepted that there will always be challenges in life, they felt a huge sense of relief because they were no longer striving to gain something that is impossible.
I feel like we are constantly being bombarded with messages that we will reach exoneration when we fall in love (think Twilight), or when we buy a product (think car commercials with 2.1 children in the back), or when we learn new info. (think about every self-help guide out there). But I think when you are well and truly permanently free from worries, you are most likely dead, or a living buddah.
I now feel challenges will always be a part of life, and they will change with every new step I take, but the quality of challenges will change. Eg. Existing challenge: I don’t have enough money to go on a vacation. New challenge: My rap entourage is so big right now that I don’t have enough room on my island for all my friends. BAM a quality challenge.
Dunno if I am crazy here but ever since I figured this out, shit dun changed son. I feel horrendously calm and internally happy and not scared of the future. Well that’s until I meet my next challenge…. :p